I'm an older guy who is looking to try some new things. I'm married. My wife and I have been married a long time and have had an open relationship for many years. She is fully aware of what I do. She has some idea of my curiosities, explained below, but she is not interested in participating in them, or on her own. Over the years I've met a few ladies on this site and had some great times! Now I want to expand on those experiences and try things that haven't been within reach before. Compatibility is key and I believe it is good to know someone, at least a little, before getting too far into things. I am not a fan of quickie meet and fuck dates. Obviously I love being with a woman and making her feel special. But I am also moderately interested in experiencing some fun with a male. I've never been with a guy before but the desire to try has been been a bug in my mind for quite some time. I'm pretty sure I would want to try mutual JO, and possibly oral, to start. I'd possibly be open to more, but it would depend on the circumstances. Unfortunately I cannot host as there is someone at my house almost all of the time. I'm not a huge fan of motel hookups, but if that is what it takes, I could probably be swayed.

My Ideal Person When I'm with a woman, I love those who are soft and have some extra padding. I'm not a fan of extremely thin girls. Height etc. does not matter to me and I do like to get to know who I am with a bit before the clothes come off.

In the case that something materializes in the male arena, my preference would be someone who has a similar mindset as me. One who is curious to try something out of the norm, but hasn't made that move yet. If it is with someone who has some experience, I would ask that you keep in mind that I have zero experience with this.

I would also prefer someone of the same physical build as myself. I'm a bigger guy. I have some extra padding, but not hanging all over the place. Circumcised is preferred.

Last, but not least, I will only meet with folks who do not smoke or do drugs. I do not partake and am not interested in those who do.

So, if you check off all those boxes, let me hear from you.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Rimming, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography, Voyeurism

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Ability to be discreet, Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I have cybersex quite often.

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