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Makin a list...
Posted:Nov 15, 2015 9:22 am
Last Updated:Mar 27, 2018 6:56 pm

And checkin it twice
Goin to try to keep everything nice
List of blogs, thoughts, pondering, wishing, and daily fun...

The Fun Stuff - about me

On sex The kind of fg I need __ Sexy sounds he makes -- SomedaysConstant state of arousal -- Intimacy and the moment __ What kind of style __searching forThe other side to casual fwbs

Toys r'us Request to see my toys__New toys

My kinks: My master list for BDSM 2018
Alternative thinkin are you kink friendly update2016 __ Just a view into my kinks
Kinky search, for me and for you __The list __ My kinks bondage
Orgasm study__ Orgasm study__Kinky mind for me

My searches: not currently looking for anyone new.

Tongue Goes in First tonight__Squirty needs towels__Flirty Friday __Sinday morning and The list
another day done__Finding your MOJO
Sinday mornin __Seems I have __ confidence and attraction are they two different things
Photo time Male nude partial nude d15c
A post for some retrospect I suppose -- Trying to sleep -- Lustful thoughtsmind wanders at work

Virtual Symposium
1st time for the 12th VS International Intrigue -- 13th Virtual world and blogs -- 14th vs First dates
15th VS Black and White __ 16th vs Casual relationships __17th The First Time __18th VS Its a Secret&vs18its a secret__19thVS Its science time__20thVS My life as a __VS23 Dreams

Sexy saturdaypenis thoughts__ Adventures in dating land for tues__Mornin ladywood
Carpet service required__Sinday mornin well lunch time__Sex chat __Thirsty Thursday free time
world of words __ Logical right__Friday __ What kind of style
Strokin wat __Where o'where are you hiding

Just for daily FUN
Finally Friday__ Just another day in paradise __ Saturday free time
another chilly winter night j14n16 __ Sexy saturday night j3n16
Monday again..
Posted:Oct 15, 2018 3:52 pm
Last Updated:Oct 16, 2018 7:12 am
Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
I hate rhyming...

Just sayin,
But also kinda sorta horny today,
But should probably go for a hike to burn off the energy.

Maybe, and then, its a beautiful day here in the badlands.

Searching, searching, and still searching...
.... maybe I will find those missing easter eggs instead.

How was your day?

Im craving some great conversation, a few good laughs, but overall just a great date that leads to some awesome sex. But not asking for much am I.
Sinday and history.
Posted:Oct 14, 2018 10:15 am
Last Updated:Oct 15, 2018 3:44 pm
So ya during my sex therapy sessions we were chatting about the where my obsession may have come from.. as there was no 'sexual abuse' as the typical go-to for sex addiction.

Anyway, looking way back I remembered the books my parents had hiding in the closet. (If you think you are hiding things from the spawn...don't kid yourself). Aside from dads porno mags there was the Joy of Sex and it was all about loving and pleasure, not the gossipy spiteful stuff in the grocery store gossip section of the magazine rack and what my one grandma loved to read.

It was about full body pleasure, erotica, communication... it wasn't about what the mega rich people drama of the week.

It fascinated me and fuelled my fantasies as limited as they where back then.
Like I said, I collect books and I finally found those two in good condition at my favorite used book store.

I think it surprised my therapist that I have always had a genuine interest in sex and that it came naturally and not by evil. At any rate its been a lifelong passion of mine. I do enjoy many aspects of sex and sexual interaction, but I have definitely learned to only express myself to trusted people because men can be cruel if there's no real bond.

So sexy bloggers,
I would type more about my obsession and passions but it really sucks trying to type in the 1 tonne truck on a bumpy hwy. Lol

Enjoy the day, it is beautiful weather here!
After work relaxing
Posted:Oct 13, 2018 7:04 pm
Last Updated:Oct 15, 2018 1:10 pm
It was a nice day in the forest and because I enjoy the outdoors soo much ...
I came home horny.

Rubbed out 4 while relaxing, didn't even bother to take my socks off. Lol
But actually I had a nice hot shower just a few minutes before this but thought I would just fix that ladywood before some yard work.

And yeeesss, nice n relaxed,
lucky because I took a walk to the far pasture and seen the beavers have been far too busy so ya fixing that tomorrow...... but for now I'm pretty chilled.

Would be nice to get a massage though

Enjoy the Saturday evening on your hot date or sex date or whatever fun you are up to, I'm off to bed early as it was a whole lot of labour today getting that fence in.
Easily amused somedays....
Posted:Oct 12, 2018 8:51 am
Last Updated:Oct 13, 2018 3:38 pm
Ya, I will admit that after a long day I can be easily amused by simple stuffs in life.
Including laughing at the thumbnail pic of this shot!

Ok ya it looks like one of those bad penis pics where the peen is floating in the shot to make it look bigger than it is.

I work in construction and you a sense of humor to survive the week.
Somedays all you can do is blink and look at your operator like wtf dood.
Other days you have to be quick on your feet to keep on top of the dog pile so you don't become a target. Lol.

I in of some really good conversation and a great date. Because no matter how light you make your day, some days it really does get a bit gloomy and lonely. Standing in a room full of people yet alone in your thoughts.

Hot sex thoughts tend to sneak around in the background, reminding the ladybits that they some attention. Craving penetration and warm hands, that longing to feel desired....

Gotta go,
The truck driver finally showed to move the machine.

Now craving sex... ladyboner will be pesky today.
I thought it was hump day ...
Posted:Oct 11, 2018 8:31 pm
Last Updated:Oct 12, 2018 11:51 am
But apparently it is Thursday, lol
Close enough though!

Even better -> its my friday.

One thing that helps the day go by is joking around and quick wit.
Somedays we can get completely off the rails with the jokes and laughter, and it's all in good fun.

Of course the quick wit and even better come backs are the best way to get a few laughs. Then saying it with a straight face will always get them, then they can't tell if its sarcasm or Haha.
Sexual innuendo is always there, of course.

Sexy bloggers,
My days off I get to make firewood and finish a contract fence job instead of relaxing and cleaning house plus yard work and then hopefully drive to the neighboring city 3 hrs away for dinner on Saturday with friends.
But ya somewhere in there I want to chill n read a book while the sun is in my front room.

How's is your weekend looking? Anything exciting?
Or a hot date?
Something way more fun than my wknd?
Add a post for Tuesday
Posted:Oct 9, 2018 8:50 pm
Last Updated:Oct 13, 2018 6:43 am
So I have been receiving a few messages and IMs regarding:
"too bad you aren't meeting" or along those lines.

Then its a monologue to me about why its not fair that I lump 'all men' into the same category yada yada yada. Well actually I am not lumping them/you/men all together, I just keep it basic and stay with my lessons learned from this site.
I am sure there are many wonderful passionate, fun, sexy, open men on this site BUT I rarely ran into them.... so I would rather search on vanilla paid dating sites for now.

But its not 'too bad' that I'm not meeting because my experience tells me that I would do better to not meet with the nsa guys right now and in the near/medium far future. Lol.
I miss sex greatly but I really can't handle yet another bad date, so I will keep searching the hollow and shallow pools of vanilla sites.

Lets see,
I can really only wish to find hot kinky sex with even most of my dates, I really want to give the benefit of the doubt but the experience has proven otherwise... and I want to hold onto the last of my beliefs that sex is awesome, pleasure is addictive, sensuality is mind bending....

So as much as many may think they have the majic penis to change my mind and prove a point,
I will pass but for a few of you the thought will definitely cross my mind that the sex just may be fun n hot.

And then,
Annnddd thennn,
Its a really short week for me as I have a whole stack of fridays off.

Thoughts of meeting new men are ever present on my mind but I rarely come across men that can capture my interest... is it because the older you get the less effort you put into initial conversations?

Sexy bloggers,
The older you get does that equal the less effort you put into others and quicker to move on to the next one?
Do you search with the same enthusiasm for sex and dating or do you change up your searches pending what its for whether sex or dating?
Sinday coffee and pondering books
Posted:Oct 7, 2018 9:42 am
Last Updated:Oct 12, 2018 12:58 pm
Or more specifically romance or erotica written for the female pov. 😏☕
Oh lord, where's she going with this...

Cretin brought up the thought that I may possibly search for hot lusty erotica when I use book shopping as a distration.
I have books about sex, sensuality, kink, and that sort, plus King and Patterson, and other archaeological type of novels.
I did inherit a bunch of paperback novels written mainly by penthouse around bdsm but I never really looked at them. (Inherited from a friend who was diagnosed with lung cancer, so I just keep them in my collection).

But looking through my books this mornin I didn't see any harlequin type of romance. Lol.
To be fair I did try and read those types of romance books because my grandmother read them all the time and would give me her books when she was done with them. I would read them and usually chuckle away at the impossible sex scenes and how they always seemed hot, lusty, passion filled.
I know from experience that sex is rarely like that, but I'm sure I can write the encounter to sound waaayy hotter than it actually was.

But I believe that women would be better off if they didn't believe in the romance, passion, hot sex that is portrayed in those books because real life is a few awkward pumps of the penis in vagina and he's off to the next meetup.
The same could be said about men wanting life to be like porn, where they women are always hot n ready and will fuck without any real connection (plus all the fakeness that would come with it).

50 shades of grey may as well been written for men because seriously a 21 yr old virgin taken by a handsome hung millionaire and she thinks he's the bestest stud evva!
So I do suppose housewife erotica has it's place in the world as it may lend to dreams and hope of a hot sex life.

But when I book shop its mainly for my other interests because the book stores rarely carry sex based content (for that I search online but I won't order thru amazon bec I'm old school and like to search book stores). Lol. Plus a book purist and I prefer paper over digital. I like my collection of garden books, farming, homesteading, archaeology, geology, canning, exploring hikes, massage, older or original versions of books....

Sinday in the badlands,
I have to try and till the garden under today, hopefully it's not too wet as my poor old tiller will have a helluva a time with the clover as it is.
Day off, now what 🤔
Posted:Oct 5, 2018 10:08 am
Last Updated:Oct 10, 2018 11:29 am
Since hiring the second person I no longer have to fill my weekends with work, and I also have a bunch of holiday time that is now booked off.

So searching for a class or workshop thay offers something of interest to me.
Like sensual massage, reiki, something about sex, or kink....

Not many are offered in my area but I will see about the neighboring cities.
I am thinking about learning to run the table saw, but I am not a huge fan of those kind of power tools. Lol.
If anyone has a handle on some 25ft I beams or can mechanic a truck that would be awesome!
How about pruning fruit trees?

Back to sexy stuff and not chores,
I am debating on whether to start hosting some information nights on different less vanilla things like squirting and prostate massage, strapon, ect, as I already co-host the bondage nights. But still searching for a hotel that isn't crazy expensive that has a workshop space available ...but on public areas the live models can't be used. Lol

Sexy bloggers,
I have asked this question a few times over already, but...
Have you done any classes or reading up on sex or intimacy based interests?

I am guessing that its more women that have an interest in learning in a safe environment and reading up on things, but I rarely come across men that have an interest in sexploring or exploring unless it was fmf/ffm.
Searches and the onesided fwb
Posted:Oct 4, 2018 11:02 am
Last Updated:Oct 9, 2018 6:55 am
So still pondering over my past searches and the last time I mentioned it the point was brought up about men not available when I'm actually horny.

My search for years was for someone that would be available when I am super horny especially just before my cycle starts. Which means 4-6 days before day 1 I'm insatiablely craving penetration and male cock, but having to settle on my toys instead of risking a hookup. .. 'risking' because nithing is worse than being really really horny and he is a 2 min man or he can't even get up due to me not being hot enough.
So searched for the unicorn man that enjoys sex and is available when I also message versus me only being available when he messages once every few months. Lol
As strange as kamloops is, I couldnt find a younger man that would be up for it.

Which in turn I started buying toys instead of bothering looking for a date. Then I got into cam shows because I could play for hours and cum multiple times.

Eventually I had to have a dollar limit on how much I could spend each month.

I have since gone through my toys and only kept a few, I limit my shopping to every few months for a new toy. If I'm horny and desiring company I just go shopping instead...usually for books... Lol

But ya, women get really horny and desire men... who would have thought.
Most 'fwb' means I should be available for when he wants company but I dont dare pester for more sex, because he will get all scared thinkin his dic is majic and you want a fulltime relationship with him (hence why its advisable to have 2 or 3 casual partners so you do not develop emotions out of convenience).

I ordered 2 new deertan floggers and looking for a new vibe.

How was your week?
Direct, indirect, flirty hints
Posted:Oct 2, 2018 11:11 am
Last Updated:Oct 5, 2018 9:15 am
So sexy bloggers,

When it comes to interacting with someone new have you completely missed the fact that she was hitting on you or flirting?

I have had men totally not pick up on obvious hints around wanting sex. Meaning dammed if you do and dammed if you don't, if you directly ask a guy (that you know) if he wants sex he seems to dismiss you or ignores you or puts very little effort into the sex. But if you hint that you want sex chances are pretty good that he won't even catch the hint.

But men seem pretty obvious when they hit on women, because he typically will only notice women he is already attracted to, thus any conversation starter from him means he wants to sex it up with you eventually.
(Not talking about idle chit chat while waiting in line at a store, yet even then men only acknowledge women hes attracted to).

Some men have made it pretty clear that they will only notice women they are attracted to so they easily pick up cues from her. So for those of us that have not won the genetic lotto, have you ever found someone attractive after you chatted with them when initially you never even noticed them?
Is there any possibility that the opposite sometimes happens where a guy who is reserved fails to pick up on some cues from a woman. For example she attempts to expand the conversation with a stranger from idle chit chat to something more meaningful.

The guy may not realize that this is her intent, and not wanting to appear being too forward, doesn't respond in kind. She perceives this as being a lack of interest on his part and thus doesn't attempt to continue the conversation any further.

How ever you slice it , I have found men treat you differently if you hit on him first vs if you just wait for him to notice you. If you hit on him first he takes that as a sign of desperation and puts very little effort into trying. Lol.

But with established partners I can just be upfront that I want sex now/soon...

But then if the world was perfect we would all have an amazing sex life. Lol
When the females outnumber....
Posted:Sep 28, 2018 8:39 pm
Last Updated:Oct 2, 2018 2:52 pm
I swear this only happens in kamloops!

The women out number the men at local events like the kink party, kink based events, and even the swingers parties I have been too!

That pretty much looks like our events, single women eyeing each other up. Lol

Every where else it seems to be a sausage fest, but I have never been to a festival of sausages ... unless it revolved around motorX. Lol

Competition is fierce and catty in the 'loops!

I used to host singles meet n greet nights but got tired of meeting the competition, so I handed the meet n greet nights over to another host.

I really thought I could meet a man interested in kink/bdsm but after years of searching I am back looking for vanilla and hoping that he's at least interested in trying or at least not judging me.

But ya,
Female heavy party again....and only in kamloops.

Sexy bloggers,
Im all outa witt, wisdom, and sexy stories tonight
Have you ever had any luck meeting 'partners' in a social environment?

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