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Posted:Sep 8, 2017 9:37 pm
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Explain your kinks..sort of
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Posted:Feb 22, 2019 6:13 pm
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2019 10:40 am 198 Views
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Devil's in the details that's for sure!
One thing I have definitely learned was to ask the kink/fetish/bdsm questions sooner rather than later. That's if he had the potential for more than just a hookup.
Really sucks when you get on great with someone just to find out your kinks don't line up at all.
Being a sexual submissive is different than being a submissive which most men want the later and not necessarily the first. But I can also switch and be a demanding top when it comes to sex and playtime. And again not many men like that, they may say they do but in truth its a boner killer for them.
Or its the vanilla route and not bother going into detail at all, but also means all he will ever be is just a casual partner for vanilla sex. Which is easy to do but gets kinda boring after awhile, unless he was open to new positions at least or oral sex. (Dont ask, its far more common than you want to believe).
Anyway, its Friday in the badlands and my cold corona is calling.
I will scroll around the dating sites maybe tomorrow, but I may just post for a kink friendly "cabin fever" event soon.
Enjoy your hot dates!
Sexy bloggers, 
I know most are just for fairly anonymous nsa sex,
but when you do find someone interesting do you have any discussions around kink or fetishes or different sexual fun?
Like for 3sum/moresum, or her wearing lingerie, or something kinky/bdsm, or doing something that you find sexy/hot?
Vs just vanilla missionary quickies that are so coveted by the nsa crowd.
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Distraction...
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Posted:Feb 21, 2019 6:01 pm
Last Updated:Feb 22, 2019 1:19 pm 830 Views
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Meditation, exercise, pilates, learn to run 5km, trail running, hiking, fly fishing, and kayaking. Then comes gardening, reading, bondage practice, single tail target practice, ethnobotany research, .... preserving my garden bounty, jerky and pemmican.
Find some courses of interest like massage, or reiki, something.
Need to keep myself distracted. Any workaholic woukd understand.
The less time I have for sex the better. Lol
My new 30lb weight vest is in, rearrange my front room to fit the exercise equipment and a mat for pilates. Start meditating while hiking, increase my lung capacity to start intermittent trail running, the apply it to running towards 5 km.
Also get plenty of exercise from gardening. 
Practice with my fly rod. Check out our local lakes and creeks.
Fit in some socialization with the kinksters but its usually the same ol'people anyway. Same dudes for nsa hookups and subs.
Unfortunately the hiking clubs here are mainly retirees, last time I tried to join in there where a few not happy about it. But some days its nice to hike with someone, maybe one of my nephews will come out... 
Some rock hounding would be fun too this year.
At any rate, I need to stay busy because horny, missing skin contact, and the dating potentials are just not there.
Sexy bloggers,
On your hot dates what do you do besides just jumping into bed?
Do you have a conversation? Or even dinner n drinks?
Or do you just fuck in the parking lot where you met then leave?
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Staying in something you shouldn't
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Posted:Feb 20, 2019 12:25 pm
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2019 11:52 am 886 Views
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The topic came up on the poly land blog about staying in a relationship that you want to leave but don't. There where many responses as to why people stay.
Made for interesting reading, and it's good to see I wasn't alone.
I am not tied into a monogamous relationship, but having casual partners and holding onto those that are not healthy for me.
Holding onto those men that treat me like a crunchy sock just because it is sooo fuckin tedious to find new men open to ongoing and who are interested in sex. Some sex is better than no sex, sex is better when you know what to expect instead of trying out new men every time I want sex. Even though I have yet to meet a man that is available for sex when i am horny. Most times he's only available when he wants sex and I have to wait for scraps of his time.
Sucks.
But searching for new partners is soul crushing compared to just ignoring the bad treatment. Until the bad treatment makes you question life, then you realize thaf lifes short but some sex is better than none.
I have found that searching for men and settling is not at all healthy for me because I end up extremely sexually frustrated and feeling less than worthy. Hence why I am on such an extended leave from meeting.
BUT sucks so bad today because I am craving skin contact, having deep primal urges for sexual contact, and irritable as fuck because I know its a futile feeling. trying as hard as I can that I don't start masturbating again, as right now I feel like getting a hotel room and just masturbate the day away. 
Anyhoo, back to bad partnerships
I have held onto those men for 6 months to 8 yrs, because at least I knew what to expect with the sex. Most new dates would bomb so badly that I would end calling up those exs just to get some sex. 
The good lovers are few and far between, yanno the ones that are emotionally healthy for you, so it hurts to replace them and that search can take years to find another.
Sexy bloggers,
How do you cope with your emotions around those deadend relationships?Especially the women because men are far more adept at not including empathy or emotions into thier life.
How long have you held onto those casual partners?
How long of a break do you take between meeting new people?
(Here we can't really play the numbers game as women outnumber the men, but curious about the mass numbers game many have).
What risks are you willing to take to find new people? Time, , way outside of your preferences, safety, , health, ??.
In case you missed it, I am just really frustrated today.
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Add a post on a Mon
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Posted:Feb 18, 2019 9:40 pm
Last Updated:Feb 20, 2019 6:08 pm 969 Views
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So the intermittent internet we've had for the last few weeks has left the browsing to other things.
But I got a little sidetracked tonight and found a couple of new books via blogs about women paying for sex, and another blog about female sex addiction.
From the description of one it almost mirrors my life, so that shall be interesting to read.
Oh, and just for fun...
I got a good chuckle out of my wild faux-hawk.
Like I said, sidetracked. Lol
The articles around women paying for sex are really interesting, more because it was about women looking for the better experience when it comes to sex. Something that I have been pursuing for years but find that good experiences are few n far between. Dick is easy to find and never means that the sex will be good, most times its just for the guy to orgasm.
And the articles talked about the women just wanting hot sex that was about her pleasure. But the interviews with the men providing that service understand that a date night requires more than 'just an hour', and for most it wasn't just about sex.
Anyhoo,
I finished my book about "having sex, wanting intimacy", and it was an interesting read. Which also led to another book 'theory of love'.
But now its the search for healthy fun loving sexual partners...
I'm also reading through my book about meditation and running, next goal is to learn to run (5km) and not just trail run.  plus my new 30lb hiking pack came in!
Next is learning some macrame, lol, to hang my plants up but yes it is for bondage practice also.
Sex, apparently a trip to Australia or Nevada. Lol!
Means I still to renew my passport.
Sexy bloggers,
Apart from archaeology and ethnobotany, gardens, food security, and mining,
I read up on my other interests quite often and continually add to my book collection or net links (for quick reads of blogs or articles)...
What do you read?
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Profiles and getting excited.
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Posted:Feb 14, 2019 11:12 am
Last Updated:Feb 18, 2019 8:37 pm 1383 Views
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In the last 8 months or so I have been coming across dating profiles or ads placed on the kink site that catch my eye, I get all excited because it is well written and he's age appropriate.
If its an ad then I will read his profile, and then one of two things happen - hes either looking for someone under 25 or his age preference is too vague that I end up asking him what his preferences are. Most times he is looking for much younger but doesn't want to state that clearly for whatever reason. But that rare unicorn that is open to his age bracket (call me skeptical now) I take a second look at the whole ad and profile and things start to look 'too perfect'.
Then onto profiles, heck I even see some on here that are well done and make me want to write a message... but the question is: are they fake because they are too good to be true.
If it was a man asking about the barely legal hottie that is dtf nsa and looking for daddy then I would say it will most likely be a fake.
I have seen a few profiles that came pretty close to matching mine, and he seemed to be looking for someone like me but then the location becomes the factor that stops me reaching out because yanno guys want attractive women not average looking. Lol.
Just a bit frustrated today because many of the profiles that I like seem to be fake. Lol
At any rate the men will be coming out of hiding by Saturday and they may be more open to meeting. So we will see.
Sexy bloggers,
Its sunny here again today, I think I need to go for a hike.
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Dirty talk?
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Posted:Feb 12, 2019 10:47 am
Last Updated:Feb 13, 2019 9:34 am 1584 Views
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Click bait and not what you think!
I know that wasn't fair, but it does lead into the topic of dirty talk, sexting, sex chat, ... all of which I pretty much suck at (and not in a good way). Lol
Picture sharing I can do, but to be fair I bore quickly of it now and much prefer skin on skin.
I can play along when a casual partner/lover would want some JOI or sexting, but I'm definitely more of a hands on type of person. 
I mean I get that a good wank is fun and that sex can be too strenuous or require effort, but if all you want is custom porn then I need new partners. Lol. Occasional sexting is fine especially because distance and work schedules can be an issue for real life interactions, but if theres no plan in the near future for skin contact then maybe you need a new partner that turns you on in real life.
Its that fine line in between flirting/sexting with an established partner and him just using you for jerk off material.
Its one of the main reasons why I steer away from any online flirting or sex chatting, talking about sex (another fine line), and save it for after we meet ...and then it depends on how often you want skin contact.
I also know that online play can be utilized as shallow validation by many or an escape from reality or "not cheating" for the married/attached people. I am no stranger to seeking validation that I am "desirable" even if it was from internet strangers, but when there is none in real life then its nice to know that someone somewhere notices even if he only sees you as a sex object. 
Lets see
I know many covet having a list of chicks to give them custom sexting, but do you also want to meet in real life?
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Whose in 😎
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Posted:Feb 8, 2019 10:45 am
Last Updated:Feb 11, 2019 10:19 am 1936 Views
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It's Friday and I was thinkin that it would be an awesome night to find some really good food!
Torn between soulful bbq and steak n lobster
Or a great 3 or 5 course meal paired with cheap beer. Lol
Include some stimulating conversation and in no hurry to finish the meal.
Hot date would be fun, but it will always end in an emptiness because you know you need to spend the next 6 months finding another date. So why not enjoy an evening out with people you know and just enjoy the food without worrying that hes judging you because you are enjoying the dinner.
Anyhoo,
thinkin for lunch there will be bacon included, because yanno I have a day off. and bacon is good for any reason.
Sexy bloggers,
Do you create a feast just because, just to enjoy an evening with good food?
Me and my spawn will do that on occasion, dress up and hit a really nice restaurant or put effort into a soul food dinner at home. Its more because we need to slow down and enjoy the moment.
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Whose in 😎
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Posted:Feb 8, 2019 10:45 am
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2019 1:27 pm 1751 Views
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Another post that I can only edit but not open.
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Almost lost blogs. 🙄
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Posted:Feb 7, 2019 10:19 am
Last Updated:Feb 8, 2019 9:17 pm 1988 Views
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Living in the badlands sometimes includes low internet , which means my cell does weird things due to intermittent internet.
There is a blog that duplicated, i went to delete the duplicate and it wouldn't let me, I edited it instead (ducky meme)...and now I am not able to open it so now ya'll are stuck with it. Lol
But while I was mucking around with trying to get my internet to cooperate,
^^^ that flashed up!
I was sure this site locked me out of my blog pages! 
Not the end of the world, but there are a few I haven't moved to my other site yet...but the thought of not having access to the blog pages brought thoughts of just deleting the profile because I really only use it for 2 main reasons. Those reasons are not for meeting people, only real reasons to maintain the profile is just to be a voyeur and to blog, but occasionally chat on the IM (so guess thats 2.5).
Low internet also slows down my searching for topics online, so now I have been getting back to reading more books. Which too much screen time isn't good for you anyway, especially if you are trying to search for compatible partners and have a mainly empty inbox. 🙄
So and then
The adventures in dating land will be quiet till after Vday, then most women will see an explosion in thier inbox as the men scramble to find hookups after their 6 week hiatus. Lol, or if they are like the men in my area most haven't been online searching since last October.
The short window for meeting will start feb th or so. Then its a rush to find someone before the summer starts and the menfolk disappear again.
Ah well until then I need to update my dating profile because soon 45.
Sexy bloggers,
Which dating sites do you use, or just answer in of online sites you utilize?
Hopefully our internet home is fixed soon. 
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Cheer you up 😷
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Posted:Feb 1, 2019 9:56 am
Last Updated:Feb 22, 2019 8:54 am 2994 Views
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When a friend is feeling sick, the easiest way to cheer him up is with a smile.
Plus surprise pics tend to make him chuckle.
When you run out of stuff to write about then just post a nudie pic.
But I will say my bush is just a wee bit out of control!
Kinda like how long my leg hairs get during winter and because of singleness.
But anyhoo, its Friday in the badlands and ready for the wknd.
Enjoy your day and hope you don't get the cold/flu that is plaguing the city!
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Tues
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Posted:Jan 29, 2019 7:26 pm
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2019 1:27 pm 2220 Views
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And my internet is soo glitchy tonight. Lol
Cant delete the duplicate post so may as well change it.
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